Add the coconut oil a deep heavy pan and follow it by the mustard and the urad dal ( split blackgram dal)
Add the ginger, green chillies, curry leaves, and chopped onions and saute till onion translucent
Add the fenugreek leaves and peas and saute them
Add the salt, turmeric powder and the asafoteida and mix well.
Add the soaked millet flakes and mix it all well on a low heat
Mix well till te millet flakes are well coated with the mix of vegetables and the slight bit of water in the mix evaporates.
The upma is ready, serve warm with chutney